Are YOU having an AFFAIR?

So Fiona (she is my awesome friend from New Zealand) and I were chatting, in various formats, text, PM (private messages), blog, etc.... if you care to read the beginnings of this you can check out Fi's blog.... but this was my response in reply to her blog.... kind of gives us a different way to 'look' at things...
********************************************************

I've often said.... if my struggles help even one person, then its all been worth it...

  

I'd not have an affair and neither would my buddy Fi....but the analogy is so true... We are human.. our Keith and Kelly are human too and if we think for a moment we or they don't notice another attractive male or female we are kidding ourselves... but we/they don't ACT upon that momentary pleasure brought to the eye by another attractive human...

YET 

its not different with food.... we live in a world of over consumption, of food that is pleasing to the eye and makes the mouth water...but we have a goal in place...

• I need to lose X lbs to be healthy,
• I have health issues in my family
•  I want to run a race,
• I want to fit into my little black dress,
• I'm getting married, etc....

yet out comes the cake, out comes the fries, out comes the.... (you fill in your food affair go to, your lover, if you will).... but out that stuff comes and like a cheating spouse/mate, we jump at it like we ain't had it/any in years.... and it can be quite an orgasmic experience (well for those of us with unhealthy food cravings)..

  

then like an affair we feel like crap and feel shit about ourselves after the 'infidelity' has taken place...

is that momentary pleasure worth all the damage later? the feelings of self loathing?? the being pissy with anyone in our path because we are mad at ourselves?

don't cheat....PERIOD! you wouldn't do it to your mate... don't do it to yourself for a moment of pleasure with food..

Love ya!

************************************************

let me preface the above with saying.... having goals.. that doesn't mean we can NEVER have something decadent... but it means we PLAN for it, and take it ONLY if we are 100% on pace/track with our goals...see when its planned, it isn't cheating, unlike those those momentary off plan bites, licks, tastes, etc.

now I must admit... i sadly had an affair today... it was a small one but an affair is an affair, its wrong and its cheating... I cheated on myself with a dang tootsie roll... but I found it in the database, logged it, and moved beyond that slip...

I'm not perfect.... but it is all happening PERFECTly.....